Why We Always Chase the Wrong Person
We have this idea that if someone doesn't want us, they must be valuable, especially when we don't think we're good enough.
Then, when someone likes us, we're suspicious of them. We think there must be something wrong with us. Because we feel we are not great, then we automatically assume that they are not great either.
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This is how we end up chasing the bad boys and girls who show no interest in us or are always putting us down just to feel valued.
Today's video is meant to clear that up. Watch!
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