Why white men love the black woman
Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.
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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
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brighteyes42 says:Posted: 30 Sep 10Hi I am a black women who find white men so attractive, but I am so frustrated for it seems like I guess because I am what you call full figured 5"2 208 pounds white men are not attracted to me. It seems like white men are picky and this hurts me. Even when I was 21 years old only about 175 pounds white from the personals in the New paper would date me , but never call me again. Can you imagine how it is now that I am 42 and 208 pounds how much harder it is . It seems like they want tyra banks etc. But I wont give up.
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Lex124 says:Posted: 01 Oct 10brighteyes, it is not a matter of being picky. You have requirements that you are looking for in a man, I'm sure, and you select those requirements for a reason. Maybe you don't want a man who drinks a couple beers each evening or maybe you don't want a man who smokes. Your reasons are because those habits are incompatible with your lifestyle. The same thing goes for weight. I can't speak for every man but as for myself, I am 6 ft and 180 lbs. I work out to keep myself fit and I select my diet based not on what tastes good but for what it will do for my body and if it will give me the energy I need for the next days workout. When I see a woman who is overweight I just tell myself that her lifestyle will be incompatible with mine. It's the same thing as your reasons for passing by on the drinker or smoker. We all want somebody that "fits" with us. Incidentally, with a little exercise and careful diet selection you could be the slender, sexy, diva giving Tyra competition for attention. It's all just a matter of knowing what you want, what you have to do to get it, and working for it. But, don't put other people down because they're happy with themselves and are looking for somebody who will be compatible, not in conflict.
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 03 Oct 10@Brighteyes42 Hello Sister! Your message concerns me. I'm 52, 5'10, 170...how can you live with yourself weighing 208 pounds? Never mind a man (of any race)! Please concentrate on your health! You can get a man once you take care of yourself. Self love comes first! Peace and Blessings to You!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 05 Oct 10Don't give up Brighteyes. Some man will come along and love you for the true beauty inside of yourself one of these days. You just wait and see.:-) Pretty thin women are a dime a dozen but a personality of quality is a rare thing indeed.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 07 Oct 10
Don’t give up Brighteyes. Some man will come along and love you for the true beauty inside of yourself one of these days. You just wait and see.:-) Pretty thin women are a dime a dozen but a personality of quality is a rare thing indeed.:-) Not all men are looks conscious neanderthals.;-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
Hey brighteyes. Don't let anyone ever put you down because of your weight. What matters is the quality inside and usually the less reinforced people are for their looks, the more likely they are to have a better personality. Better looking people can skate by on their looks and I know this from dating women like that. And many statistical studies that are very accurate back up what I am saying. I know no one wants to hear it but it is the truth.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 12 Oct 10
Hey brighteyes. Don’t let anyone ever put you down because of your weight. What matters is the quality inside and usually the less reinforced people are for their looks, the more likely they are to have a better personality. Better looking people can skate by on their looks and I know this from dating women like that. And many statistical studies that are very accurate back up what I am saying. I know no one wants to hear it but it is the truth and no one wants to hear the truth but I hope you read my message soon enough before psychological damage is done to you by low self-esteem because of your weight. You shouldn't be judged by it and should be treated with honor and respect as a human individual with worthwhile talents and gifts. But this will get thumbed down by thin people who think they are worthwhile because they are pretty but don't listen to them because real beauty comes from inside.
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SmokeyTheCat says:Posted: 29 Sep 10We, everyone here on this website, are of the modern age. The world has changed beyond all recognition. Two hundred years nearly all our ancestors would have lived in the same place, a village, town or city and never left it. Only a tiny elite could afford horses and there was no other method of long distance travel. So our ancestors just picked the most reasonable partner from their locality and settled down. Then came railways, then cars, then photographs, then movies and we got picky. Two hundred years there was no Marilyn Monroe or Naomi Campbell so men didn't want them. And no Will Smith or George Clooney for women either. Now, with the internet, we have become more picky still. There are half a billion people on Facebook now so who feels the need to compromise? We seek perfection now and with a quarter of a billion potential soul mate men or women maybe we will find it. Several women I have chatted to on this website have confirmed this and I know it's true for me too. I would say that practically no black woman on this site wants just 'a white guy'; they want a white guy of a certain height, certain build, certain income-bracket, certain education, certain smoking behaviour etc. and maybe even star sign! And why not? I am the same. I have dated tall women in the past and it's been fine but I have always been more attracted to shorter women (Who knows why?) So I search for a black woman, under 5'6", smoker, certain age bracket and Christian. There are still dozens. So I start getting *even more* selective! Looking for that certain spark, that certain smile. And etc. It's the modern world people and we love it don't we people? Now way back to the lives our ancestors lived two hundred years ago.
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cinnamon0310 says:Posted: 16 Oct 10Don't give up...some of us, have never been skinny, nor have I. I work out 5 days a week, and I keep tone....When you have that awesome personality, and confidence...that's what's going on. There are lots of men, who love you for, who you are and what's on the inside, not on the outside...Everything, that looks good on the outside, isn't always good on the inside...Its all about loving yourself...hugs
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shaggy138 says:Posted: 28 Sep 10
I love black women because of their appearance, I cannot lie. They just appear so much more exotic to me than what I knew growing up. I grew up on the south side of Chicago in a predominately white neighborhood and had little exposure to other races until I got old enough to work and live on my own. As a German guy, blond hair blue eyes and all that, it cracks me up the looks I got when me and my ex would go out, as she had a very dark skin tone and micro-braids. Yes, we white guys do know about, and I have never heard of any being bothered by, weaves and braids, lol. Another thing I've noticed is that black women tend to accept that we are human more than white women. Most of the white women I dated seemed to expect me to be perfect at all times, which just isn't possible. Black women seem to be willing to accept us lumps and all as long as they know that we are working as hard as they are on the relationship. The black women I've dated over the past 8 years were also some of the most loyal and loving people I have ever met. I could scrape my knee and they would want to come help me if they could. Most of the white women I dated were very selfish and spoiled brats I guess.
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sticks724 says:Posted: 12 Oct 10You are too funny! It's nothing like someone keeping it straight and to the point huh. By the way I am not a young single mother from African looking for a step-father for my kids - rotflmbo. I am a 42-year-old, professionally employed, single mom (one child in college) from the states.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 27 Sep 10
Hey, we have gotten off the subject again of why white me love the black women....that is what I want to know about. Besides, I am too old to have anymore children anyway...lol.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 27 Sep 10
@ Twilight101 Hello, I hear what you are saying. I didn't comment out of pride but frustration about an issue that I will not discuss. But don't think that I am advocating a lifestyle, because I am not. Peace.
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fantastic4u says:Posted: 23 Sep 10@ ilikechaitea I'm going to have to agree with you ilikechaitea on, some black women making wrong choices repeatedly. But, no matter how many wrong choices they make, they raise their children giving them the emotional and financial support they need. My concern is that black men need to take care of their children. There are way too many of them not handling their responsibilites. I grew up partially in a two parent household. However, my parents divorced when i was 11. My attraction for white men doesn't come from not having a nurturing father, it comes from a genuine attraction for white men. I remember having a crush on RIchard Kimble (the fugitive), Bob Eubanks, Pete on "The mod squad" when I was a little girl. I have just always had an attraction for white men.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 23 Sep 10
Statistically, once you reach 35 or older, the probability of being helped by marriage counseling is low and a woman of any color probably already made her mistakes and had kids. Nothing I can say will help on this blog. None of the younger members of this site will touch this blog because they only get horny old white guys hitting on them and they have told me this themselves. So you older people enjoy yourself and keep on using this blog to pick up older women. And I think the reason why white men on this blog go after black women is they can't get any white women their age or any race of any age that is younger. Older black women with kids are just easier to pick up.
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Dannyco56 says:Posted: 22 Sep 10@friendly13 Hi, I just dropped by good to see some familiar posts. I have been keeping pretty busy. How have you been? Hope all is going well? I see there are more people posting here recently. They are sticking more to the subject now as well. I agree with you, there is one that is not really contributng. I have not seen him say anyting positve about all the beautiful black women who are posting. I will try to check in more often and say hello. Take care! God Bless! Danny
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ilikechaitea says:Posted: 22 Sep 10Again, my statement holds true. My Dad, brother, cousins, etc. are GREAT fathers. Perhaps this is many of the ladies' experience. But I have the World's Greatest Dad. I do sympathize with many men & women from broken homes who have privation of a 2-parent home and couldn't imagine what it feels like to not have a good father to love and teach you what to look for in a good man. @fantastic4u I submit that single parenthood effects Black girls too in that many Black women(from single parent homes) make poor choices on men too as they don't know what qualities to look for/ demand from their mates until after they've made children with that man. It's too much about money rather than security with many of us. I've seen sisters have children for men who weren't taking care of their previous children. Now this is just not right-knowledge. We get logical after-the-fact and then want to blame men? I say something was wrong within from the gate.
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fantastic4u says:Posted: 21 Sep 10
Sorry serenity33, I totally disagree with you .I'm not here to bash black men. But, they continually fall short as father's, whether married or single. I think the problem is no role model to pattern themselves after. They fail to grow up looking into the face of loving, healthy and stable relationships. They all too often settle to underachieve leaving the black women or mother's to be the financial and nurturing power within the family structure. As a counselor, I'm sure you can appreciate the impact of the socialization process as it relates to different cultures. The difference is many black men were raised by single mother's and more white men were raised in families where the familial structure remained intact. Seeing couples work through issues, resolve those issues and grow stronger because of it, molds your perspective on relationships. The answer isn't for black women or any women for that matter to abstain from sex, the answer is for black men to assume responsibility for the children they father. You can not snatch responsibility from black men and hand it to black women to infer the problem is the black women, Black women take care of their children. Black men have yet to understand the importance of reaching back and taking care of those same children whether they're married or not.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 20 Sep 10
I am white and despite that, I think women are being too hard on the Black man. Having kids are a two way street. How many Black men get married and leave their kids and family as opposed to Black men that just have sex and then don’t feel obligated to take care of any kids? White men are just the same in that kind of situation. I think more white men are just interested in getting married so they end up staying around to take care of their kids. I think a lot of problems with Black men can be solved by not having sex before marriage if women can restrain themselves that long. Then there won’t be any kids for them to have to worry about. The married Black and white men seem to be equally good at taking care of their kids and family which have been my experiences as a marriage counselor. I think marriage is the solution as opposed to just writing off Black men as generally not taking care of kids. Lets try and be fair to everyone here.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 20 Sep 10
@dannyco56 Hey, how are you. @serenity33 I don't think that they should keep letting you get on here and put black women down about having children. That is sexist. We are here the discuss why white men love the blackwomen and not why they shouldnot. Men are responsible for their own choices and women are not to blame for what men choose. Men have consequences for their own actions just like women or anyone for that matter. I have four kids by four blackmen and they all take care of their own responsibilities. Always will and always have. I own my own home and pay my own way. I am fully educated like many black single moms. I am not looking for a meal ticket but a partner and friend. I personally don't have anything against black men. My father is black and he is great. He adores my mom and he is a great example of a black male. Just so happens I decided to give white men a try because they have always shown interest in me but I felt obligated to only be with black men until the last couple of years. I had some old attitudes that needed to be adjusted and improved.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 21 Sep 10
I think you are missing my point. I am standing up for the Black man, not putting down black women for having children. The one person was complaining that Black men never stick around to take care of their kids and I was responding to that saying that many times, no male of any race will stay around to take care of their kids if they aren't married to the mother. I have seen that countless times from all races during my marriage counseling sessions. I am ecstatic that you love white men and when I was talking about choices, I wasn't saying that women were only to blame for having kids outside of marriage, I think both are equally to blame because it takes two to have sex unless rape is involved. So you can't put all the blame on men for having children and you can't expect them to care if they aren't married. I am ecstatic that all your Black men take care of their children by you and that you are fully educated. Single mothers statistically are more educated than married mothers because they have to have better credentials to support their children and make more money in those cases where the father doesn't take care of their children. I just think that women shouldn't complain if the father of their child doesn't take care of their child, no matter what the race. This is the biggest blog on this site and has been here forever and is the most popular. It has more than been established that white men like black women as there have been over 6000 entries on this blog. So I am just pointing out little areas to fine tune and balance out the blog when generalities are made like black men are worse than white men and all men should take care of their children whether they are married or not and that all men are to blame for not taking care of children out of wedlock. Everyone on this blog over 6000 thousand times already agrees that white men dating black women is great. I don't need to repeat that. And what selfish motivation would I have standing up for the Black man since I am white? I am simply trying to balance things out based on my studies as a marriage counselor and my experience as a marriage counselor. If you know the secret to finding any man who will stand by his kids even when they are not married to the mother, please share it with me because it is very rare in marriage counseling that men do stand by their kids when they aren't married. I applaud everything positive you said about yourself and if you are happy with your kids and your fathers of your kids, then more power to you. And it isn't just black women who have the problem. All women have the problem of having kids that aren't taken care of by the father no matter what the race of woman, if they aren't married to the father. You are an exception to that rule and I wish you were the norm but that isn't what statistics have shown me or my marriage counseling experience. I have stood up for black women on other blogs where they were put down but everyone on this blog loves black women so I don't think one more voice will matter. Share with others your positive experiences and be the exception. And remember that I am for the black woman and women in general. Just be careful about placing blame for things and be fair to both sexes.
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ilikechaitea says:Posted: 22 Sep 10
I agree with you serenity 33. I think that many Black women probably had horrible men in their lives and no relationship with their father. One lady commented about going swimming even though she cannot swim and motor-cross etc. That's an ambition? If you can do this with a White guy, why can't you do this for yourself with swim classes & motorcycle lessons? I don't get it either. I am not an angry person; I grew up with both parents, and my Dad is the greatest in the World. I think that a Black woman who puts down Black men has issues that may come from a troubled past, but that's IMHO. People do have preferences. I can understand a woman with multiple children by multiple Black men being very angry, but I cannot co-sign to her anger; she picked the wrong men repeatedly, and seems to now be angry with all Black men. Perhaps it's a numbers/ availability thing or lack thereof. Some of us refuse to man share or date men who are not on the same socio-economic level we are. Women outnumber the men and we are left single - holding the bag? I don't know about the other ladies, but I love to be treated like a lady. I want a man to pull out my chair, open my door, pay for the date, be my friend, respect me, laugh with me, be a shoulder to cry on, encourage me, eat my cooking, and when it's time rock my world. Tell me... what does color have to do with any of this ladies?
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friendly13 says:Posted: 20 Sep 10
Hey everybody. It has been a while since I have been able to get on here to chat. I miss ya'll. I wanted to share a hot video with Kelly Rowland and Tiziano Ferro's Breathe Gentle song. Check it out it is hot...(retrieved on September 20, 2010 from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TSMNZYIG0yo )
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 24 Sep 10
@ Friendly13 There are many things I don't understand about black people/women...even though I am black. I would be ashamed to have 4 children by 4 different men. Is that something you are proud of and view as positive?
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coolladyjax says:Posted: 20 Sep 10
I've dated black men all my life, had a white boyfriend in teenage years he was not confident about our relationship and that caused problems even though we got along well. This incident turned me off from white men. However older now I am willing to give it another chance with an Ivory brother that's not bothered by being with a chocolate sister. he must be confident in what he wants and who he wants to be with, be a good provider and loves kid because I give my best I am only expecting the best whether black or white. Ivory brothers don't be scared of us sista's all we want is to be loved and to love someone back. I like walks on the beach and horseback riding, can't swim but willing to learn, motor cross, fishing etc.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 19 Sep 10
I am white and despite that, I think women are being too hard on the Black man. Having kids are a two way street. How many Black men get married and leave their kids and family as opposed to Black men that just have sex and then don't feel obligated to take care of any kids? White men are just the same in that kind of situation. I think more white men are just interested in getting married so they end up staying around to take care of their kids. I think a lot of problems with Black men can be solved by not having sex before marriage if women can restrain themselves that long. Then there won't be any kids for them to have to worry about. The married Black and white men seem to be equally good at taking care of their kids and family which have been my experiences as a marriage counselor. I think marriage is the solution as opposed to just writing off Black men as generally not taking care of kids. Lets try and be fair to everyone here.
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jenny729 says:Posted: 14 Sep 10Let me just start out by saying I love reading the comments from other women. This is my first time reading the articles and posts and it just gives me so much more insight. I think white men date black women for the simple fact of attraction. In the past it was VERY rare for a white man and a black woman to be in a dating situation. Now I think the old stereotypes are gone and we have adopted a new attitude of "who cares". I have dated mostly white men and I have asked why do they date black women? Attraction is the answer. Life is too short to worry about hang ups! *Side note*Go State beat Notre Dame see at the tailgate!
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fantastic4u says:Posted: 14 Sep 10
Oh, I forgot to actually answer the question. I think white men love black women because we're in their corner. I think once a white man establishes a long-term relationship with a black women, he realizes he has a power house in his corner. Black women don't sit around and wait for someone to take care of them. Black women get out and make things happen. Other women tend to want to stay home under the guise of being a stay at home mom and just don't want to partner with their mate to help build a life and take equal responsibility. I'm not saying that raising children isn't an essential part of building a family and a life but remaining a stay at home mom until a child is off to college is a bit much. If a man loses his job, a black woman will get out there and take a second job to keep it together. That's how we were raised. We were raised to be women, not helpless girls. I also believe white men find black women very passionate and compassionate. We won't serve you with divorce paper's when the check stops coming in. We encourage you to reach for the stars.
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fantastic4u says:Posted: 14 Sep 10
For me, my very first date was with a white boy. I was in the 4th grade and he just adored me. He asked his parents if they would take us to the movies and they did. Now as an adult, I have dated white men exclusively for 13 years. I find them to be engaging, and more amenable to intelligently working through issues (just my experiences). I also find them more willing to please their partner's and to feel their relationship is important. I'm very attracted to white men to the point where I really don't see other ethnicities physically attractive. This tends to run through my family as my mother, two sister's and niece are all married to white men. I find them to be gentle and nurturing. I'm sorry I can't say that about my black men. Although I have dated black men and was married to a black man, I just don't find them to be helpful to their women. I feel they take our strength, our nurturing spirit and our willingness to go to battle for them for granted. I know I can't place all black men under the same umbrella, but a good black man seems to be hard to come by. I find that black men need to set their priorities, take care of their families, understand the importance of education, and actually give a damn about the children they leave behind. I find that black men drop a lot of children and never look back. Leaving all these children without a clue as to what a loving and healthy relationship looks like. Because of that, this craziness is perpetuated through those same children. Black men, you've got to do better....
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LilLayia87 says:Posted: 07 Sep 10I have always been attracted to white men. I was hesitant to approach them because I wasn't sure if they were interested in black girls or not. I have dated 3 white guys and I am currently dating the 3rd white guy. I must say he is AMAZING. We connect soooo much. Our personalities click. We can talk about almost anything. Its just so different with him than it has been with the black guys I have dated. He tells me everyday how amazing and how beautiful I am. He's such a gentlemen when we go out places. He holds my hand in public. And he doesn't care that I wear weave!!!! We both like pop and R&B music and hip-hop. I think race shouldn't be an issue when it comes to dating and falling in love. If you guys click, then it shouldnt matter regardless of the race. I really would like for the relationship between me and the white guy I am dating now to progress into a more serious and committed relationship. Because of past experiences for both of us, we have agreed to take it slow and enjoying dating and building a good grounded friendship then relationship. I think now-a-days too many people jump into relationships and wonder why it doesnt work. But I'm happier than I have ever been with my white guy. :-)
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bigeyes31 says:Posted: 11 Sep 10
Wonderful!! Im happy for you. I had to chuckle about the weave comment,lol. I have thought about this to myself several times. I have been on some dates with some white guys and I was wondering when and how I was going to address the weave ,girl,lol. I love wearing them and I have made up my mind that any man I date is going to HAVE to accept my weaves, as they are and will forever be apart of the family. I often think about how white guys feel about us(as in black women) wearing weaves and do they understand how much of a common practice this is for us. I 'm definitely attracted to men of other races due to just physical attraction but I'm picky and quirky so dating is ever so hard. I'm glad you found someone who clicks with you and I hope one day that happens for me. Good luck!!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 12 Sep 10
Your last paragraph is right on and I totally agree with it. People should date who they are compatible with and your psyche seems to make you compatible with white guys the most. And friendship should be first and dating taken slowly. And that's exactly what I found out as a marriage counselor is that most people jump into marriages too quickly and then they wonder why it doesn't work. It is because they never got to know each other well enough to know what they were jumping into. And I am glad you are happy with your white guy.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 12 Sep 10
Oops. My comment was for LilLayia87 and I didn't hit reply under the right person. My bad.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 14 Sep 10
Your last paragraph is right on and I totally agree with it. People should date who they are compatible with and your psyche seems to make you compatible with white guys the most. And friendship should be first and dating taken slowly. And that’s exactly what I found out as a marriage counselor is that most people jump into marriages too quickly and then they wonder why it doesn’t work. It is because they never got to know each other well enough to know what they were jumping into. And I am glad you are happy with your white guy.:-)
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Blaquexotic says:Posted: 19 Sep 10
Weaves/hair extensions aren't exclusively worn by black women so the weave issue isn't all that new to white guys.
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moonchild21 says:Posted: 07 Sep 10Hi, I'm a Black female and many people describe me as attractive. I have dated only Black men and now find myself disappointed with the prospects. I placed my profile on this site a couple of months ago because I wanted to open myself to a different - and more positive online dating experience. This is my first time on an interracial site. I was very hesitant for a number of reasons; but primarily it is exactly as some of you stated. White men seem to NOT approach Black women - despite so many white men now admitting that they like being with us. I would never have considered dating outside my race and now that I want to give it a try...well, I am so confused!!! 90% of the men who flirt with me, email and wink at me even on this site are Black! I've chatted with a few of them and some were nice guys, but most delivered more of the same. The 10% white who reach out with flirts, (they never email) are either much older than I can date, have very round bellies and snow white hair. Or they're black leather bikers covered in scary tattoos and handle-bar mustaches. WHAT, WHAT is going on here? I'm trying to remain open-minded, but the outlook seems so dismal. I am so discouraged. I thought there was a Black man shortage...omg. Where are the attractive, well-rounded, complete package white men (under age 50) hiding?
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serenity33 says:Posted: 12 Sep 10
I hope you find what you are looking for moonchild. I don't think white men though are afraid of approaching you for being black though. There may be other things in your profile that go against their preferences but I wouldn't pass it off as you being Black. I don't know why anyone hasn't said this because it is a sad but statistically true fact that lighter colored Black women are statistically seen as more attractive than darker ones. So I don't think it is a Black issue when it comes to you why more white guys aren't interested. It could be anyone one of your demographic facts or something you wrote in your profile. You will have to ask women who are successful at finding the type of white guy they wanted for advice on that. I personally don't care what anyone's race is or what they look like as long as I am psychologically and spiritually compatible with them. Good luck on finding a good white man. I know they are out there.:-)
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serenity33 says:Posted: 14 Sep 10
I hope you find what you are looking for moonchild. I don’t think white men though are afraid of approaching you for being black though. There may be other things in your profile that go against their preferences but I wouldn’t pass it off as you being Black. I don’t know why anyone hasn’t said this because it is a sad but statistically true fact that lighter colored Black women are statistically seen as more attractive than darker ones. So I don’t think it is a Black issue when it comes to you why more white guys aren’t interested. It could be anyone one of your demographic facts or something you wrote in your profile. You will have to ask women who are successful at finding the type of white guy they wanted for advice on that. I personally don’t care what anyone’s race is or what they look like as long as I am psychologically and spiritually compatible with them. Good luck on finding a good white man. I know they are out there.:-)
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julianne says:Posted: 15 Sep 10
do an advanced search check the qualities that you are looking for in a man, select white men, click on yes or maybe for the ones that interest you or just send a flirt, and see what happens.
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Blaquexotic says:Posted: 19 Sep 10
Hi Moonchild, Don't feel that you are obligated to finding men on this or any "interracial" site. You will find that men of all races will contact you on sites that aren't marketing the interracial theme. I met my ex a year and half ago on Match and most of the guys contacting me there were white, Asian or Latino. A year and a half later, I'm back on the saddle and found this free site POF. It isn't fancy looking but there are lots of members and they're quite interactive. To answer serenity's question, I think white men that ONLY date black women are creepy because there seems to be some sort of fetishism and stereotyping involved. I don't date those types of men. I like a man that is well rounded and open about his options and experiences as I am.
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
@ Blaquexotic Thanks for the tip about POF! :)
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cinnamon0310 says:Posted: 17 Oct 10
I totally agree...I WILL NOT, date a white guy, trying to act like a black guy. If I wanted that, that's where I would be...just be yourself...that's all I ask. I've read a couple of posts and a couple of guys mention, if we say hello...To be honest, when I'm out and about, white men, speak and may, make a little light conversation...and that's it...I would think, if I'm talking and keeping the conversation going...mmmm, why isn't he taking the hint, hint? I'm so interested in you...what gives guys? Please, give some tips...smiles
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ilikechaitea says:Posted: 22 Sep 10
moonchild, I know what you mean about the approach or lack thereof. Socially speaking, we are used to more of a live and direct approach to go to dinner or a Black man asking us out, to the movies, etc. White guys have this subtle way of asking for a date that doesn't quite translate. We often read it as a business thing (well, speaking for myself and some other women I know) that we can get confused which leads to them being uncomfortable about asking in the first place. I think most women want a fun guy who is smart and is respectful.
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Soltis says:Posted: 17 Oct 10We are definitely on the same site. I could have written this comment myself. This is the my first time on a interracial site and I was pleasantly surprised at the shear number of men interested in pursuing an interracial relationship. I attempted every recommendation, on the site, for reaching out and very little changed...I did get more views...lol, just what I was looking for. However, my experience has been a duplicate of yours...too bad the men don't take a risk, reach out or follow-up.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 06 Sep 10
I couldn't tell you on this one because I don't have any problem approaching anyone no matter who they are but my intentions are pure and have friendship on my mind which I think is important to have before getting serious with anyone. Do you think it is impure motivations that may make men more hesitant to approach black women?
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 08 Sep 10
@Moonchild21 I don't know how much exposure this site gets. There are lots of photographs of men, bu I don't know if they are "real". I too am a disciple of Jesus. Finding a man who knows Jesus can be difficult...no matter what his race. You are a special woman...just any man won't do. Please have faith and be patient.
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moonchild21 says:Posted: 12 Sep 10
@ Twilight101, Thanks much for your feedback!Yes, I have the same question about the amount of traffic and views for this site, as well as the authenticity of some of the photos. I appreciate your reminder to me that not just ANY man (Black or white) will do. I'm working on my patience...ugh!
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roc24 says:Posted: 14 Sep 10Hi, i'm a white male and i want you to know that white men are attacted to black women. I've never heard otherwise from my white friends. I think the reason you don't see more white/black couple is that we don't interact enough. I live out side Detroit Mi. and we are a very divided city(the city vs suburbs) racially. It can be difficult to meet black women. I'm recently seperated from a black woman. I met her at work. I have met black women at the health club and at school but overall it can be difficult. I will say that this country still has a ways to go in accepting black/white couples. I've dated asain and latin women and encountered very little negativity. I think in twenty years interacial dating won't even be an issue.
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22snafu says:Posted: 22 Sep 10I just had to message you as I think you have an angel face. I consider myself ok looking so hopefully my image appears by the time you look. The only reason i signed up for this site is because I truly was floored that you are single as you are so gorgeous.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
I totally agree that you should look for men that are good Christians although I am biased since I graduated from a Christian Seminary. I would suggest doing a keyword search and type in Christian for something like that and see if that narrows it down or not. And hopefully the pictures will be real like mine too because I think it is stupid to put fake pictures up especially if someone might meet you in person so I would rather put up a bad picture and be honest than put a fake one and deceive women with false, really handsome pictures.
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Scoff/Sarah says:Posted: 06 Sep 10Sorry about the Saarah LOLOLO, I'm using Scoff's laptop Love Sarah
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Scoff/Saarah says:Posted: 06 Sep 10
Anyway I just want to say Hello to all of the folks that make this Blog such a success. The summer heat has finally started to let up on the Gulf Coast, so it is time for us older folks to start getting out and enjoy ourself's. I will say that in the morning I can feel just a hint of fall, which reminds me of cuddling by the fire and sipping a mint tea with that special one..... Yes us old folks like to get romantic once in a while.. Love and God Bless Sarah
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Scoff/Sarah says:Posted: 06 Sep 10
Just dropped by to say hello, myself and my special lady are still around and enjoying the blog. So hello everyone, I hope everyone one is having a wonderful 3 day week-end. The summer heat is finally letting up on the gulf coast, and I can smell fall in the air, and quiet evfenings around the fire, (hmmmm a litlle snuggling time with that special one), Love & Blessings Scoff & Sarah
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 04 Sep 10
I have read over and over again that white men are afraid to approach black women. I don't understand that! :) :( When I attend trade conferences I 'm always amazed at how much "play" (attention) I get from white men...usually more than I get from black men. Please, MEN, explain why you feel black women are unapproachable? And while you're at it, please tell me what makes a woman approachable. Thanks. :)
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dega7008 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
I made a comment about this on Facebook.... and I think sometimes it depends on where you live. I'm in Iowa and you don't very often see black women. The state is about 97% white, so if I see a black woman, I worry that she might feel that I'm just trying to "experiment" or approach her for the wrong reasons. If it was a more diverse city or state, then the concern might not be as great. But for me personally.......... I just never know if I'm flirting with a black woman that's not into white guys, so it would really help if the woman would open up in some way to let the guy know that she's interested. Whether it be a nice little conversation, a smile, or anything you'd want to give to let the guy feel that the light is green. I'm sure it's different for every guy, but that's just how it is for me personally. I think it's not really any different than approaching a woman of the same race because you never know if she's even into you, so we look for possible body signals since guys are very visual.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 04 Sep 10
@ dannyco56 All is well. Still working on that masters... @blue1 I enjoyed your comment. Your thoughts are important. It is good to see a whiteman who is not afraid to share the reason "Why whitemne love the black women". I also appreciated that you point out that we are not all the same and that we are individuals in every aspect.
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blue1 says:Posted: 03 Sep 10As a white male whom has dated black women since the eight grade, I feel I can talk on this subject. First it is really impossible to lump black women into a group. Too many differences to use the statement "black Women" The are some things that I can say from my experiences. While I have known black women all over the range sexually, it can be said that black women usually accept their sexuality and therefore ofter are more involved with the male. Maybe the most important issue for me is that they just look better. Usually there are curves and I love them. The lips are a huge plus as is the skin. However the best thing I have found is a women whom is in your corner is the best. There are no shortage of white women so if a white male is talking to you he is interested. Keeping him around is what all relationships are about.
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 03 Sep 10
Blue1! I so appreciate your stressing "TOO Many Differences". It's frustrating to be lumped under "black women". Thanks for the comments.
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Authentic!!! says:Posted: 04 Sep 10
Hi Everyone! I am a Black female from Jamaica, who is extremely attracted to white men for one or more reason. I have found them to be very extraordinary and passionate in and out of bed. Although, I noticed most magazines and TV would like to depict black women as being sexy, with a high levels of testosterone, which many doctors find very strange. I chose to take a closer look to their behavior, they haves integrity, love, morals, standards, and plenty of courage to stand by their man. Therefore, I didn’t/don’t see a problem with the connections, because most of my life, I’ve dated white men, most were European, and the relationships went pretty well. Unfortunately, I was not ready to settle down at those times, however, I have accomplished most of my goals, my though are different and I’m now ready and enjoy the moment. FYI ladies, I would like to share a few comments with you, I have been told and from my experience, white men are actually afraid to approach black women. Ciao ~
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Dannyco56 says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
@tattered2death Hello! Hope all is going well with you. I hope you are stil reading this thread. I don't know about you but I likethe new look. Bless you dear! Scoff / Sarah I just wanted to sy hello and looking forward to the rest of the story. Blessings! bamababe2k9 Hello to you as well hope all is well wiith you. Hope you still read this thread and are reading some of the new posts. Good to see more people with their own stories and thoughts on why white men love black women. Blessings! Hello to Godiva61 and Chocolatladi I hope you both are doing well. Blessings! God Bless! Danny
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Dannyco56 says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
Good Morning to All, @Shotgun007 It is good to read that you have had some pretty good experiences with white men and that you have included them as eligible for dating. I hope that your expierences continue to be positive while dating white men but be aware there are some bad ones out there as well. I hope that who ever you find and fall in love with he will treat you special and will love you endlessly. @friendly13 Hope all is going well with you and your family. Just wanted to say hello and let you know still enjoy reading your posts ad I like this new thread. Blessings to you! @Jackson1223 Sounds like you have been taken by this young lady. I hope that all goes well and your love for her and her love for you grows. Love does conquer all and it will be all that matters between the two of you. Good Luck and blessings to you both. @stop6chix Well you may have never dated a white man but you have been tinking about it and that is a beginning. If you are open to it it will happen. Ther is a white man out ther that will find you attractive and want to be friends and that may grow. I hope that who ever you do fall in love with that you will both love each other for ever. Blessings! @Nawl I Hopeall is going well with you and hope that you are not to busy to enjoy yorself. Life goes by so fast and many forget to enjoy each day. I hope that you take te time. Blessings!
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shotgun007 says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
I don't really know what to think about how this article is written. Parts of it appear to reinforce stereotypes and continue to keep up the "hype" and then there are other things stated that makes sense for more or less, I guess. I sometimes wish articles like these could actually be written from a White Male’s perspective as opposed to someone offering up a suggestive “assumption “about BW/WM thoughts on the issue. I can tell you a few of the things that I find very attractive about white men, and I must admit that my opinion is mostly based on the ones I went to college with, worked with and dated. Most were raised to be solid paternal parents, and a super strong drive to succeed. They exude perseverance to me. What woman doesn’t find that attractive. When I dated this guy a few years ago, during our relationship, I don’t think I have ever felt so protected and appreciated. I am confident, that’s just how I was raised but it’s different with white men. I love the fact that they know exactly what they want in life at a very early age, WM will tell you exactly how they feel, aren’t ashamed to fail, and can admit their mistakes. I love a man that can be gentle yet strong at the same time. But this is from my personal experience. shotgun007
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ChocolatLadi says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
I'm Happy for you Jackson, I hope it does work out for both of you.
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jackson1223 says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
I have recently entered into my first relationship with a black woman. I really didnt even think about it-this woman just blew me away from the beginning. I've never been against dating black women, it just never happened. Maybe I just wasnt exposed enough for it to happen. Either way, I'm glad it has happened, as this could potentially be a wonderful relationship. I've dated white women my whole life and none of those have worked out! lol I only hope that the race issue isnt/doesnt become a problem for her...that would be a huge dissapointment.
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BrwnButrfly says:Posted: 04 Oct 10
jackson1223: I doubt that race is an issue as she said 'yes' to the first date and others thereafter it seems.....
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sticks724 says:Posted: 12 Oct 10
keep it going Jackson, if you have gotten beyond the first date with her your a shoein - lol
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Stop6chix says:Posted: 01 Sep 10
I've never dated a white guy before. I am intrested hince that's the reason I'm here. As I write I realize I'm not answering the question that was being asked, cause idk the answer. To tell the truth I had no idea that it was such an intrest! I guess since it's not as common as the blk dude white girl. From my prospective or maybe it was just an stereotype I've grown to beleive is white men don't really find blk women attractive. Alot of us dnt have the long flowing hair, and were let's say meatier, we have "the attitude" ( which is so not true) that makes us not dateable. I wanna meet that guy who finds me to be just another person who he likes for whatever reason and our race not even be an issue. Neither I or any of my friends have dated someone white so I can't speak on the subject. I bet ur probally going " what the hell you comment for" ? Cause I can (lol) j/k idk really just wanted to say my two cents!
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pnkpndr77 says:Posted: 05 Sep 10
I have just started a pro. on this site. I have always been attractive to black women, and I have decided that I am only interested in finding a black woman to date or chill with and get to know. I am a single parent, and in an area where I am not likley to meet a black women interested in a white dude. I would have better chances if I was into the frat party and sorority scene , but I'm not. I want a woman not a little girl. I grew up in Tulsa Ok, St. Louis, and live in Dc , Baltimore area bout 4 yrs. Not frontin' , but the 4 black women I have dated approached me otherwise I most likley wouldn't have thought they would like white guys. I am extremeley into black women !! Wish I was in a different area.
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pnkpndr77 says:Posted: 05 Sep 10
lived in DC and Baltimore area, don't anymore.
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WarmSpice says:Posted: 08 Sep 10
I am a 45 y.o. black woman who has this advice for pnkpndr77: It certainly is not about your physical location son, but rather, it has more to do with your state of mind.. I can't speak for every african american woman out there, but I will say this-- A woman wants a man strong enough, determined enough and bold enough to go after what he wants. Even if you get "shot down", just go for it. Bottom line; your own insecurity is the only thing standing between you and finding that beautiful woman of color that will welcome you into her open arms. Live your BEST life!!!
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ilikechaitea says:Posted: 22 Sep 10
I think that you can meet Black women in the DC area, but you have to understand the language. Many White guys are just so passive that we don't know if you're wanting a date or to introduce us to some network marketing scheme. Please learn to ask for what you want. If you want a date. Ask for a date. If you want to go to lunch, dinner you must be clear. I'm sick of the street approaches, but I'm a tall sister so who walks with confidence so I rarely get the disrespectful cat calls, but the leering is something women just deal with. DC is harder than many places because it is socially conservative. However keep in mind, many of these ladies are single & available and would love to go out. If she says she wouldn't be interested in a full on dinner date, perhaps you could try coffee. What woman wouldn't care for a cup of chai tea or coffee to see if you have any energy together?
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BrwnButrfly says:Posted: 04 Oct 10
pnkpndr77: Confidence (not arrogance) is the key. There are many of us who are not moved by the 'frat' scene but are looking for a man--gentleman who will treat us as the treasures we are; guaranteed a real woman will reciprocate.
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kd5icr says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
I just love women, color isnt anything. I never figured I would and well here I am, So get over the color thing, after all GOD doesnt make mistakes
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canadiangc says:Posted: 01 Sep 10I prefer the stereotype like “black women are sexually conservative sluts? You can tell the attitudes from these articles come from people who never date interracially.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 31 Aug 10
Thanks for giving your perspective, Twilight101, but I am looking for post from Black women(not guys because I trust a woman's perspective on this more than a white guys especially those who go for all types of women) who think they know why white guys are attracted to them. And Black women have ideas why white men are attracted to you and especially the Black women who have white guys that ONLY like black women? That would be truly interesting to know and learn from because that is what the post is about. Not how many different races a guy can be interested in because there are too many guys that are interested in ANY female of ANY race that is attractive and willing and I would like to here from Black women who date men who are ONLY attracted to Black women or white guys who are ONLY attracted to Black women. That would be what the topic of the blog is really about and educational to us curious about the topic of the blog. Thanks.
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shotgun007 says:Posted: 02 Sep 10
Interesting reply and very true. Shotgun007
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00seven says:Posted: 04 Oct 10I'm here to officially, set the record straight. The reason the white men are attracted to the dark part of the chicken, is because they originate from us. White men will always and forever be attracted to us, the African American true blooded black women. Allow me to get a little deeper with our history. No, we are not conservative nor are we promiscuous, we just know innately how to love PROPERLY. No one on the face of this earth can EVER compare to the black woman. Did you know that our origins are of GREATNESS? Why wouldn't you be attracted to that. I know I would. White men are attracted to us in the most elusive way. We are the Mother of all civilization, therefore cementing our birth to what you mere mortals call LIFE.
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Anthony2012 says:Posted: 05 Oct 10
of course they gonna treat you nice at first, but nothing lasy forever lol...its curiosity, attention, but once they find out that you just a skin colir and no different from being just what god made you to be a woman...thdy start to lok at you different,,, And boy I tell you white men are just like that R-kelly song "when A white man is fed uuup there aint nothing you can do about it "...when theu dont want you....yo they dont want you!!. but hey enjoy the experimentation while you can !!...
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Cynamyn82 says:Posted: 07 Oct 10
There are plenty of Black women who would date black men. Please show them love and leave other black women alone. Thanks :)
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shotgun007 says:Posted: 08 Oct 10
To Anthony2012............. Is there a reason why you feel as thought you can speak for white men? Your post implies that white men can only view BW as a fantasy and never be serious about BW. Why don't you admit that this is your belief, and that you want it to be true. Fact is, a lot of black men are somewhat resentful of white men, for more reasons than one. Although some BM do not care that BW date interracially but they sure as hell despise the fact that BW are now dating white men. By the way, I know this might be a little difficult for you to wrap your brain around.....but did it ever occur to some of you black men out there, that you all are viewed as a taboo fantasy? As in something to experiment with, or toy with from curious women? Shotgun
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nicknack83 says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
This is an INTERRACIAL dating site. No one cares what you think! Black women are admitting to liking white men...GET OVER IT!! :)
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nicknack83 says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
Please go to Black Planet....I'm sure more people will care over there.
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Anthony2012 says:Posted: 17 Oct 10
For nicknack83, shotgun, cynamyn and any other misinformed ego, Get over it ! most black men dont date black women anyway so why?Would we care ? if you do date a white man ?.....lmaooo I think you and whoever believes that is trying to flatter yourselves please , Most black men at times depending on looks and attributes would pick another race over a black woman at times anyway.Sounds sad but true ! And you know this so who are you kidding ?...you just happy because more white men are coming out the closet about the issue ?....lol. what you want us to feel like bad or angry or something ?nah most black men arent like that at all, we dont get upset, jealous and vengeful over nothing petty like that, thats most black women role they like to pick up and apply ,theres more important things to do in this world than be concerned about things that dont effect us directly..lol give me a break , But in trying to understand your emotions , I guess it was YOU who felt left out when us Black men over looked you black women and dated white women, ..Stop trying to flatter yourselves We our good, Most nationalies date black men at a higher rate than they do black women so we still winning in the race , It seems you are just trying to alleviate the pain we put in your hearts for overlooking you, but instead of all this back n forth bickering we see the same thing in other races that you see , Its just we have been benifiting from its rewards alot sooner than you were ,And once you discovered the beauties of interracial dating you too enjoyed it !.....some black women act like your getting even with us for something we did unknowingly or something like its payback or something lmao !...And the majority of us dont Care there is by far way too many beautiful non -black women out there Hot and sexy to just be concerned solely about one's own race's dating preferences..Why would one limit themselves ?....You just date whites but to me thats old news like junior high type stuff lol. Im into Hispanic ,native American , Malaysian , portugusse , Alot of us black men getting all flavors while you just settle for vanilla ..lol.. I mean c'mon now ladies get ya weight up not hate up ! ........SOME OF YALL ON HERE TALK LIKE YOU DO NOT GET OUT MUCH AT ALL LOL.....
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dega7008 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
Anthony.... So if what you say is true that black men are not really into black women, then why do a lot of black men taunt black women or get angry when they see them with a white guy? Why are there stories of violence by black men, even that black women with a white guy have been murdered? Not to mention that if you're not into black women, then why even bother posting about this? Why even bother making a fuss about it? The fact that you'd actually make a posting about it shows that you got a problem with it deep down or you'd not let it get to you. Perhaps you're bugged by the fact that black women are statistically more educated and sophisticated than black women, and as a result of this can relate better to white men. Or perhaps you are annoyed by what is well known that white men treat black women far better than what I keep hearing of how black men treat them. If there is a possible reason why black women have difficulty coming out more to admit their attraction or interest in white men, it's possible that 'part' of that worry is backlash from black men. Whether this part is true or not, I don't know, but that's the impression that I get and it's what I hear and read about often when it comes to this particular subject. But like I said..... if you're not into black women, then why make a fuss about it? I think your actions speak louder than your words quite frankly. But if you don't like black women, then that's to a white man's advantage.......... and we thank you because they are classy, beautiful and they deserve a man that will treat them well and not as some object. :-)
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dega7008 says:Posted: 18 Oct 10
I really need to proof read what I type....... "black women are statistically more educated/sophisticated than black men" :-D
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forrestsmiles says:Posted: 11 Oct 10
As a white man, I like what most women are saying about white men and think they are right. Let me, as a white man, who dates pretty much only black women state what my reasons are. A black woman with some class, who is proud of how she looks in her tight jeans and high heels or how she looks behind closed doors is extremely attractive to me. A black woman typically has beautiful skin, beautiful lips, many times a pretty smile with bright white teeth and bright eyes, wonderful curves and if she is trim and takes care of herself and is blessed with good genes... there is no one more sexually attractive, no one I want to adore more, no one else I want to look at or have my way with. As a man, I can still stray, but it is not as much in my nature or my culture, or as acceptable. Appreciate me, touch me, be affectionate with me, dress for me, go to ALL the trouble you do with your hair, to look good for me, be late on a date cuz you are working hard to look HOTT for me, and I will be loyal to you, and i will love you. I will buy beautiful clothes and open an account at Victoria Secret for you, I will take you to the best restaurants (that I can afford), I will take you to a play, the theatre, to ballet, to see Tyler Perry's "Madea", (front row seats last week in Miami... cost me a fortune)... I will love you in every position i can think of, i will live our everyday life as excitiing and fun as i can, i will make you laugh, i will be myself with you... at times, be the macho man that i am, and at times, be a bit vulnerable... letting you see that side of me. I will cook for you, i will smoke ribs and chicken for you on Sunday, i will take you fishin and come home and cook it outside so as not to stink up your clean house... I will lay down my jacket across a puddle to allow you to pass, not getting those spiked over the knee boots wet. ( OK, check that, you may have to settle for a piggy back ride there). I think a black woman appreciates the qualities i present and generally appreciate a good man, because she has been cheated on, because the former Tyrone's in her life have never stepped up, never kept their word, treated them poorly, denied them the opportunity to advance, demeaned them and broke down their self image and confidence, culturally and otherwise. Some black women are very independent as well, and have done it for themselves for so long, they don't really NEED a man. That does not threaten me, i admire an intelligent black woman. As long as they appreciate me for being there and loving them, as long as they share my life with me equally, not wanting a sugar daddy, I will return that love with the same love... and then some. I don't see me feeling that way about white women in general... not putting anyone down, i think it is just in my genes... it is just raw attraction and preference. A black women knows how to take care of her man... in, and out of the bedroom. I LOVE BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN !
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sticks724 says:Posted: 12 Oct 10
I just came onto this site and your post caught my attention. I am a black single women and now that I have reached by 40s I have started looking outside my race. I have no problem with black men, but I am now more comfortable with myself to be open about dating outside of my race. I have always been attracted to white men. I get flirted with alot from white men, but no one has ever stepped up to ask me out. I am a single professional black women with one child (in college) and very independent. You hit it right on the head with your depliction of what a black women wants. I have had the Tyrones, been and mistreated, and I am tired of it. Not saying that all black men (or any man) is like that, but I want someone who can appreciate me for me. Someone who knows how to show CONTINUED respect, love and joy that they are with me. You were right in saying we black women now how to care for our man - it just finding the one that deserves it.
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Kaishay says:Posted: 06 Sep 10Serenity33, listen I am a black women who prefer to date white guys. The reason I like to date white guys is because I think the respect is more sincere, most are honest, the relationship always feels fresh and I really enjoy the attention I get from a white guy. Don't get me wrong if a black guy with the same prospective as I have I will date them too, but it's been a long time since I have dated a black guy, just don't trust most black guys. I want to be the only diamond in my man's life and I can get that from a white guy. Just to clear something up I love the black man but a good black man is hard to find. I was married to an palestinian at the age of 22 and it last 17yrs and I was happy and it was only him and I.( he died in 2005) So it really doesn't matter what race connects what matters if you love each other and you both are on the same level.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 12 Sep 10
Thanks Kaishay. That sounds like good rationale to me and your last sentence I think says what it is really all about. "So it really doesn’t matter what race connects what matters if you love each other and you both are on the same level." If everyone thought that way, I just may be put out of business as a marriage counselor.;-) Keeping spreading that good ideology.:-)
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lovingvirgo says:Posted: 28 Sep 10YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!! that is exactly what I'm talking about. that is why im not dating black men anymore. And my whole attention is on white men now. It does seem that they cherish us much more than black men. I dont know what it is I mean black men are sexy and different shades of lovelyness. BUT im past trying to change a black man into what i want because it rarely works. So im trying long term relationships with a white man. I have been there but i want to do it again.
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JC_love says:Posted: 15 Oct 10
Hi, you are right, betwen black and white or yellow women, is the black women is the best in the bad, they have nice round bum, not flat ass, like white women, very nice silky skin, if you can find a black women who is in love with you, understanding you, also you respect and care about her you are will be a happy cheppy!! I wish to be again 25 years old with my knowlige only married with black women!!
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John8870 says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
A woman is a woman. Some are light, some dark, and others somewhere in between. What makes them different are culture, upbringing, and attitude. What makes them unique is "chemistry", also referred to as attraction. As a Floridian, I have known a number of Latino's and I am happy to include them in my prospect list, too.
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BronzeJoy says:Posted: 31 Aug 10
WELL!!! I must say: I only just joined the site so I'm now navigating my way through the aspects beyond ''searches'' and ''profiles''. I am a Caribbean woman and ours is a culture so rich and diverse it almost defies definition. I am deeply attracted to Caucasian men, but have never dated inter-racially, for no other reason than the lack of opportunity. When I read some of the poignant descriptions of the beauty and grace and radiance possessed by black women, as seen from the view of white men......................................It reinforced my decision to date inter-racially! I believe that what makes a person an INDIVIDUAL is everything BEYOND the physical that comprises them. Be it inherited or learned. For ME, it's a combination of ALL aspects, but coming from a society where certain behaviors are EXPECTED, I welcome and embrace the cultural variation and the chance to like what I like and see whom I want to see! I get the impression that despite many white men willingness and desire to date women of colour, there is an underlying paranoia regarding the acquisition of Visas etc. An obvious throwback to the ''Gold Digger'' stereotype. It is frustrating and to a great extent offensive, because I live in the Caribbean and although am prepared (should I meet THE ONE) to relocate, it is NOT a priority! I'm a Business Woman and happy in my Island Paradise and frankly would PREFER if my partner relocated instead of me! In the end it comes down to the level of maturity of the parties involved and their faith in the love that they have for each other............................We are not in this world alone (by ourselves), but it is so easy to feel alone in this world!
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Jenna1974 says:Posted: 01 Sep 10
@Bronzejoy Well said sister well said!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 01 Sep 10
Hmm. That says why white men are afraid of dating black women. And of course everyone is an individual and should be treated separately. I am still waiting for women of color who have had exclusive encounters with white men on ONLY date white women? Is there anyone out there and could they share why they think that this happens like the topic of the blog? Or this blog a total joke and there is no white men that would date black women exclusively? If that is the case, I guess I am wasting my breath in asking but I thought there might be at least one woman out there who had come across white men who exclusively date black women. I honestly want to know and i am not hearing any answers on the topic. Just people who don't fit the criteria of the topic. I don't fit the criteria either as I am not exclusive either to Black women which is why I am so curious if it exists or not since they saw fit to post the topic in the first place.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
I like women in all flavors. My palette seems to prefer butter pecan and chocolate.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
I would like to here from white men and black women why white men are attracted to black women. Could someone please answer that question more specifically because I honestly don't know and am ignorant on the subject. Twightlight, what you said could be said for any race. Could your anyone else specifically say why white men are attracted to black women? Twilight. Why do you think white men are attracted to you? I am really curious to know. What about you Jan? Can you get us back on topic and tell us why white guys have been attracted to you?
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
@ Serenity33 I really cannot say "why" white men are attracted to me. I usually date men with certain charcteristics (educated, healthy lifestyle, clean-cut, tall, single/divorced)...no matter what their race or ethnicity. I don't mind getting my hands dirty cutting grass or painting a fence. But I "clean-up" well for a play, dinner party, or just sipping something cold on the front porch. There is a certain type of man (vs. race) that finds me attractive.
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Twilight101 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
Everyone has characteristics they prefer in a mate. I don't care to date short men, smokers, men with young kids, men who have been in prison, men who are bi-sexual, etc. I should be able to say that without someone responding with profanities. Don't be hypersensitive about your situation/characteristics. Just make the best of it...live with the choices you've made.
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newawlunzguy says:Posted: 29 Aug 10Hello all - I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.
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latechmom77 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
I thought this was supposed to be about IR, not about how many children black women have. We all have to play the hand we are dealt. I have too children that I love more than anything. No I am not with their father, yet somehow that makes me undesirable? STFU. If you don't want to date a women with kids bypass us, trust we will not miss you.
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friendly13 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
@John8870 Oh yeah! I forgot all about that movie....that is a great movie with Whoopi Goldberg and that fine actor whose name I do not recall...yes that movie was so good I saw it several times. I would like to get it and watch it again because I have not seen it in a while. Thanks for bringing that back to the forefront.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
"Malibu's Most Wanted" is a wonderful movie about Black/white relationships that we could all learn from and it has a very happy and wonderful ending with love and harmony at the end. We all could use more of that in our lives couldn't we?
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
@ cakelady1 - I concur that watching a movie and experiencing a realtionship are unrelated. And you're correct, I haven't been bitten in public by striking up a conversation - at least not yet!
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John8870 says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
A really good movie about IR romance and its struggles for acceptance is "Corrina, Corrina", starring Whoopi Goldberg. If you haven't seen it, it's a really good chic flic.
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ChocolatLadi says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
Hi Everyone:) Another must see is a House Divided with Jennifer Beals, Sam Waterson and Slave girl Marcia Gay Hamiltion. Sam Waterson raped his new slave girl Marcia Hamiltion she gave birth to a dtg, J. Beals and S. Waterson and his mother raised that biracial child as a white child until it was time for her to start courting. That's all I'm "gonna" tell you. The libraries do not have it nor block busters, Columbia House has it on VHS for around $40.00. I found it somewhere in Hawaii for around $12.00 online with the $4 or $5 shipping, it came as a boot-leg DVD but it was very much worth it. Don't pay the $40-50 bucks for it, contact me and I can see what I can do. I do believe it was on Showtine a few years back. Peace and Love to Everyone in Black or White
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cakelady1 says:Posted: 27 Aug 10
I would like to comment on the movies that have been discussed about IR relationships. All of these do give some insight but to be honest with each other we must get out and meet or introduce ourselves to the other races. White men we don't bite in public only in private...LOL so come over and talk to us. You will be surprised that we want too talk you as much as you want too talk to us. Black women we all know how we have that look on our faces, because we are trying to get to point A and B. I know we don't mean to look unapproachable but we do. The next time we all go out in the world just take some time and look around you will be surprise to see who is looking at you. JUST A FRIENDLY OBSERVATION
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